What To Do When Someone Dies

Almost none of it has to happen today.

Knowing what can wait is what gets you through.

Four stages, in the order things actually happen.

Black

The first 48 hours

The few calls and decisions that genuinely cannot wait.

Yellow

The first week

The funeral, the documents, the money.

Blue

The first month

Notifications, entitlements, the household, work.

Estate

The long road

Probate, assets, final accounts.

Take the list, or have someone walk you through it.

The checklist

Every task in order, as a tick box.

$27

The death admin tasks listed in order
Tick boxes, not paragraphs
Shows you what's urgent and what can wait
Banks, insurers, government and utilities, in one list

Get the checklist - $27

The guided library

Walk Me Through It

Short videos that guide you through each part.

$297

Everything in the checklist, plus:

23 short videos for each step (less than 4 minutes each)
Scripts to help with every call
Easy to use templates to ease the mental load
Support for going back to work, their clothes, the anniversaries
12 months access to the library so you can come back as many times as you need

Start the walkthrough - $297

One buys you the map. The other buys you support from someone who has already walked it.

Every video is under four minutes.

You will read the same paragraph three times and still not take it in. That is what grief does, and it is why nothing here runs longer than four minutes. You press play, someone tells you what to do next, and you go and do it. That is the difference between having the list and getting through it.

See what is inside

Black, start here

How the checklist and the videos work together
What grief does to your brain
The calls you have to make first
Keeping yourself and your household going

Yellow, the first week

Planning the funeral without doing it alone
The money in the first week
Asking people to take things off you
The documents, and where to find them
Their work, and your work

Blue, the first month

After the funeral, the decisions that follow
What you may be entitled to
The official notifications
Getting the household running
Their digital life and accounts
Legal and estate, what needs a lawyer

Estate, and the rest of it

Probate and the long road
Scripts for the hard conversations
When the help drops off
Going back to work
Their clothes and belongings
The car, the tools, the big things
Anniversaries and the firsts
When to get more help

Ashleigh Conwell, founder of Yellow Falcon

I built the thing I could not find

In 2020 I was 29 years old and 17 weeks pregnant with triplets when my husband died suddenly in an accident.

Counsellors handled the emotional weight. The funeral director handled the day. Nobody walked me through the rest of it, so I worked it out alone, phone call by phone call. This is that roadmap, made properly.

I built it so nobody else has to work it out alone at 2am with a pile of paperwork and no one to ask. You should not have to become an expert in any of this while you are grieving. Somebody should just tell you what comes next.

Ashleigh Conwell Founder, Yellow Falcon™

Three things this is not

Not legal or financial advice

General information only. For your own situation you may still need a solicitor or a licensed adviser.

Not therapy

This is the admin. The calls, the forms and the order they go in. The emotional weight may need a professional counsellor or psychologist.

Not a course you have to finish

No start date and nothing to complete. Open the part you need, close it again, and come back as often as you need for 12 months.

The things people ask first

Which one do I need?

If you just want the order of tasks, take the checklist. If you do not know where to start, or you are already carrying more than you can hold, take the walkthrough. It includes the checklist, and adds short videos that guide you through each part, along with the scripts and templates, so you are not also working out what to say and how to write it.

What do I actually get?

The checklist is a PDF, sent straight to your inbox. The walkthrough includes that same checklist plus 12 months access to the library: 23 short videos, the scripts for the calls you have to make, and templates and letters you can use as they are.

Can someone else do this for me?

Yes. Most of this can be done by somebody else. When someone asks how they can help, give them one of the four stages and let them work through the tasks in it. They make the calls and chase the paperwork, and you only step in where your signature or verbal consent is needed.

Is it Australian?

It is built for Australia, so it names Australian banks, super funds, insurers, Centrelink and estate paperwork. A lot of it is not country specific though. The order things happen in, the calls you have to make, the documents you will be asked for and the words to say are much the same wherever you are. Outside Australia you would swap the agency names for your own.

Isn't this what the funeral director does?

Only part of it. A funeral director arranges the service, and they do that well. They do not help with the notifications, the accounts, the paperwork, or any of the decisions that are not about the funeral itself, and that is the bulk of what is coming. The walkthrough covers planning the service in detail, and then everything after it. That is the part with nobody assigned to it, and that is what Yellow Falcon is for.

Not ready to buy anything today? Start with the free guide: 10 Things No One Tells You When Someone Dies

General information only. Not legal, financial or medical advice, and not a replacement for a will, probate advice or professional support. For your own situation, speak to a solicitor, a licensed adviser or your GP.

You do not have to work out what comes next.

Someone already has.

Get the checklist - $27 Start the walkthrough - $297